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When clarity lands and the past falls away…
For the first time in what honestly feels like decades, I have a sense of being clear-headed—something close to what I imagine “normal” must

Tom Robinson
May 42 min read


When You Finally Heal, the Breadcrumbs Stop Looking Like Love
When You Finally Heal, the Breadcrumbs Stop Looking Like Love

Tom Robinson
May 12 min read


More Often Than Not, the Avoidant Is Secretly Longing for the Ex They Ran From
More Often Than Not, the Avoidant Is Secretly Longing for the Ex They Ran From

Tom Robinson
Apr 303 min read


Your Ex: Why They Ran From Love
There’s a particular kind of heartbreak that doesn’t come from being unloved.
It comes from being loved by someone who was terrified of wha

Tom Robinson
Apr 295 min read


When You Want “Him Back, But Healed”: The Moment YOU Don’t Reply
When You Want “Him Back, But Healed”: The Moment You Don’t Reply
There’s a very specific kind of message that arrives after a long, uneven

Tom Robinson
Apr 143 min read


If You’re the Avoidant Who Freaked Out and Ran: What You Should Do
If You’re the Avoidant: What You Should Do
This is the part that matters most—not understanding the pattern, but changing it.
1. Stop Call

Tom Robinson
Apr 103 min read


Your Avoidant Ex Did You a Favour!
It may not feel like it at first. In fact, when a relationship with a dismissive avoidant ends, it can feel confusing, painful, and deeply unfair. You’re left with questions, mixed signals, and the haunting feeling that if you had just done something differently, maybe things would have worked. But with time, clarity arrives. And eventually you realise something powerful: your dismissive avoidant ex did you a favour. Not because the relationship was easy. Not because the endi

Tom Robinson
Mar 163 min read


Your Ex: When the Illusion CRACKS!
There is a strange kind of freedom that comes after loving someone deeply for a very long time—and hurting just as deeply in return.
For a

Tom Robinson
Mar 62 min read


The Death of Your Avoidant Ex…
When someone dies, the narrative is complete. There is no ambiguity. No “what if they text.” No imagining them with someone else. No wonderi

Tom Robinson
Feb 273 min read


To the Dismissive Avoidant Who Thinks They Have It All Figured Out
To the Dismissive Avoidant Who Thinks They Have It All Figured Out

Tom Robinson
Feb 253 min read


Avoidant Ex : Everything You Need to Know
If you understand everything in this video then you’re free. There really isn’t anything left to say… The whole thing is devastating - avoidant attachment causes so much hurt, pain and confusion - ON BOTH SIDES…. But eventually, when you finally understand, you CAN set yourself free. As for the avoidant? Well, they’re just starting their painful journey.

Tom Robinson
Feb 221 min read


Loving a Dismissive Avoidant: What do I do? 💔
Dismissive avoidant ex partner and marriage

Tom Robinson
Feb 224 min read


To the Avoidant Who Walked Away From Real Love
To the Avoidant Who Walked Away from Real Love
If you’re the avoidant who walked away from the love of your life and built a “safe” but emo

Tom Robinson
Feb 203 min read


Your Ex and Their Conscience (or lack of one)
There’s a particular kind of silence that feels louder than screaming.
It’s the silence of someone who once held your face in their hands,

Tom Robinson
Feb 193 min read


You Do Not Need the Headache of Your Avoidant Ex
You Do Not Need the Headache of Your Avoidant Ex
Let’s be honest for a moment: what did he really give you… besides a headache?
Sure, in t

Tom Robinson
Feb 182 min read


What Happens When Your Avoidant EX Gets Married? (No, I’m Not Sugar-Coating This)
What Happens When a Dismissive Avoidant Gets Married? (No, I’m Not Sugar-Coating This)

Tom Robinson
Feb 93 min read


Your Ex: When the Dismissive Avoidant Finally Cracks
There’s a quiet moment that comes after the pain. Not during the chaos, not while you’re begging for clarity or trying to make sense of the sudden distance—but long after. It’s the moment when you’ve finally let go.
You’ve done the work.
You’ve sat in the fire. You’ve grieved deeply. You’ve replayed every conversation, every almost, every hope you had for what could have been. And eventually, you reach a place of understanding: they weren’t capable of holding real love—not

Tom Robinson
Jan 123 min read


Your Avoidant Ex: Why It's So Hard to Get Over Them
Why It’s So Hard to Get Over Your Ex (Especially the Avoidant One)
If you’re struggling to get over your ex, you’re not weak. You’re not broken. And you’re definitely not imagining how brutal it feels.
They didn’t give you closure. They didn’t explain. They didn’t apologise. They didn’t let you ask questions.
They just pulled away.
One minute things felt good—maybe even great—and the next they were cold, distant, gone. Then, just to twist the knife, you see them on Instag

Tom Robinson
Jan 84 min read


Why Your Ex Freaked Out, Blocked and/or Ghosted You 👻
When an avoidant blocks you, it’s not because they don’t care.
It’s because they do.
They block you because they love you and they don’t kn

Tom Robinson
Jan 42 min read


Your Avoidant Ex: The Great Escape (spoiler; you can’t outrun yourself.) 😆
Dismissive avoidant core wound of shame. Your ex and healing

Tom Robinson
Jan 33 min read
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