Classic DA comment - “It’s a Good Job I’m Mentally Strong” 🙄

It’s a good job I’m mentally strong,” they say…

No — it’s a good job you’re emotionally numb. That’s not strength. That’s suppression. And suppression, when left unchecked, becomes stupidity dressed as resilience.

Dismissive avoidants don’t reflect — they deflect.

They don’t feel — they flee.

They don’t grow — they distract.

And the distractions get more and more outrageous.

A new horse box.

Another house.

A ridiculous, over-the-top holiday.

Even having another baby or finding yet another emotionally unavailable partner.

Anything — absolutely anything — to avoid looking in the mirror.

Because to face themselves?

That would mean admitting something’s wrong. And that’s a place they’ll never go. Not until everything around them crashes down — and sometimes, not even then.

But once you see the pattern, once you understand it’s all just noise designed to avoid self-confrontation, it becomes laughable.

As Mel Robbins says: Let them.

Let them walk straight into the car crash they’re determined to manifest.

Let them keep buying, building, breeding, marrying, and bullshitting their way into chaos.

It’s not your job to fix them.

It was never your job to carry their emotional dead weight.

But YOU…

You did the work.

You sat with the discomfort.

You went to therapy.

You unpacked why they told you you “weren’t busy enough” — a projection of their own internal panic.

You faced the shame they were too cowardly to acknowledge in themselves.

They gave you advice that “worked” for them — and look at where that got them.

Their entire life is a performance.

A hollow play that ends, every time, in collapse.

So stop trying to save them.

Stop waiting for them to see it.

They won’t.

They gaslight, they ghost, they run.

Let them go.

Watch from the fringes.

Smile — not with malice, but with peace.

Your peace.

Because you did what they won’t.

You faced yourself.

You healed.

And now? You’re free to live the life you deserve.

TR