The Moment the Spell Broke There comes a moment when the illusion of someone you once idolised finally crumbles. Not because they’ve changed, but because you’ve started seeing them clearly. For a long time, I saw my avoidant ex as the love of my life. I placed him on a pedestal, romanticised our connection, and held onto the belief that what we had was something extraordinary. I mistook the intensity of my feelings for the depth of his capacity to love. But eventually, som

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