There’s a quiet moment that comes after the pain. Not during the chaos, not while you’re begging for clarity or trying to make sense of the sudden distance—but long after. It’s the moment when you’ve finally let go. You’ve done the work. You’ve sat in the fire. You’ve grieved deeply. You’ve replayed every conversation, every almost, every hope you had for what could have been. And eventually, you reach a place of understanding: they weren’t capable of holding real love—not

Why It’s So Hard to Get Over Your Ex (Especially the Avoidant One) If you’re struggling to get over your ex, you’re not weak. You’re not broken. And you’re definitely not imagining how brutal it feels. They didn’t give you closure. They didn’t explain. They didn’t apologise. They didn’t let you ask questions. They just pulled away. One minute things felt good—maybe even great—and the next they were cold, distant, gone. Then, just to twist the knife, you see them on Instag

hat’s the paradox: they can’t stay with the person who showed them real love and emotional closeness… but they also can’t be alone. So they rebound. Quickly. Not because they’ve healed — but because they choose a partner they don’t have to be real with. Someone who doesn’t require vulnerability, depth, or emotional presence. Someone who allows them to bypass the pain. Because sitting in the flames? Feeling the grief? Quietly processing, healing, and working through their w

That is the particular cruelty of dating someone with an unhealed avoidant attachment style. You often have met someone who could be right, but they are far too emotionally unhealed to hold real love. Red Flags to look out for...

If you have loved an avoidant deeply, you already know this truth. No amount of explaining, patience, reassurance, or self abandonment will make them look inward. The harder you try, the more they retreat.

When an avoidant blocks you, it’s not because they don’t care. It’s because they do. They block you because they love you and they don’t kn

Dismissive avoidant core wound of shame. Your ex and healing

Dismissive avoidant ex and dating again

There is a particular kind of grief that comes from loving an avoidant partner. Not the explosive kind. The quiet kind. The kind that makes

How to Spot a Dismissive Avoidant (It’s Easy When You Know How)

I hear it in close relationships all the time. The constant references to the ex. The one they ran from. The one who “freaked them out.” T

your ex is an actor who can't do real love

Dismissive avoidants in relationships

How Do You Know When You’ve Finally Processed What Happened With Your Avoidant Ex?

Imagine your ex’s pain years on

The festive season has a way of making everything feel softer. The lights, the music, the nostalgia — and suddenly you’re holding your phone

A Letter to the Dismissive Avoidant Who Ran From Love You ran from love. Not because it wasn’t real, but because it was. Your nervous syst

The Deadly Disease of “Being Busy” There is a deadly disease running through relationships, business, and modern life. It’s called being bu

When Forgiveness Finally Lands

Letting Go — For Good There comes a point when you simply have to drop the whole thing. The labels. The analysing. The endless “my ex was avoidant,” “a narcissist,” “covert this,” “emotionally unavailable that.” Yes, I had an anxious attachment style. Yes, I understand why. Yes, I can see some of my unhealed avoidant friends still heading straight into emotional car crashes. Yes, I’ve watched people reject real love in favour of doormats or other avoidant partners, and yes