Why It’s So Hard to Get Over Your Ex (Especially the Avoidant One) If you’re struggling to get over your ex, you’re not weak. You’re not broken. And you’re definitely not imagining how brutal it feels. They didn’t give you closure. They didn’t explain. They didn’t apologise. They didn’t let you ask questions. They just pulled away. One minute things felt good—maybe even great—and the next they were cold, distant, gone. Then, just to twist the knife, you see them on Instag

hat’s the paradox: they can’t stay with the person who showed them real love and emotional closeness… but they also can’t be alone. So they rebound. Quickly. Not because they’ve healed — but because they choose a partner they don’t have to be real with. Someone who doesn’t require vulnerability, depth, or emotional presence. Someone who allows them to bypass the pain. Because sitting in the flames? Feeling the grief? Quietly processing, healing, and working through their w

That is the particular cruelty of dating someone with an unhealed avoidant attachment style. You often have met someone who could be right, but they are far too emotionally unhealed to hold real love. Red Flags to look out for...

If you have loved an avoidant deeply, you already know this truth. No amount of explaining, patience, reassurance, or self abandonment will make them look inward. The harder you try, the more they retreat.