They’ve got everything - except love 🤦‍♂️

We all know them.

The picture-perfect couples with the “dream life.”

The house. The cars. The careers.

The dog called Basil, the Farrow and Ball kitchen, the six door aga, the kids, the holidays, the carefully curated smiles for Instagram.

On the outside, it’s flawless.

But look closer — it’s a shitshow.

Behind the filters and the furniture, there’s emptiness.

There’s routine instead of romance.

Politeness instead of passion.

A partnership built on comfort, not connection.

They didn’t choose each other out of love — they chose safety.

One or both rejected the right person somewhere along the way.

The one who saw their soul.

The one who challenged their walls.

The one who made them feel.

But real love was too confronting.

Too exposing. Too raw.

And the dismissive avoidant can’t handle that kind of closeness.

So they ran.

They told themselves it was “too much,”

when in truth, it was everything they’d ever wanted — it was just too real to face.

Fast forward.

They’ve got the partner who doesn’t ask questions.

The job that looks good on paper.

The house that impresses strangers.

And a heart that hasn’t felt alive in years.

The spark is gone.

The intimacy — an afterthought.

The laughter — replaced by quiet resentment and scrolling on separate screens.

Surrounded by luxury, yet starving for meaning.

Decorating the emptiness with new purchases and old lies.

Pretending it’s happiness.

Pretending it’s love.

Welcome to the Dismissive Avoidant Shitshow — where they have everything that glitters,

and nothing that’s gold.

You can build the perfect life on paper, but if there’s no love at the centre, it all collapses in silence.

Because when the lights go out and the noise fades, when the house is quiet and the phone stops buzzing, all that’s left is truth.

And the truth is —

they didn’t win.

They settled.

They chose safe over soul, comfort over connection.

But you?

You dared to feel. You loved with depth.

You faced the fire instead of running from it.

And that means no matter how it ended, you already lived the one thing they’ll never touch — real love.

Because without that, no amount of money, success, or stability will ever fill the silence.

And that’s the tragedy — they got everything they wanted, but lost the only thing that mattered.

(Oh dear) 🙄