Dismissive Avoidants: unhealed Blocking and Ghosting

When someone avoidant ghosts you or blocks you, it says everything about them — and nothing about you.

Let’s be honest: disappearing, going silent, or blocking someone without a word isn’t emotional maturity — it’s avoidance, plain and simple. It’s fear. It’s emotional immaturity dressed up as “protecting their peace”.

People who ARE emotionally healed and self-aware communicate. Even if they’re not ready for something serious, even if things aren’t working, they’ll say so. They don’t just vanish and hope you’ll figure it out on your own. That’s not strength — that’s cowardice.

When someone ghosts or blocks you without a single conversation, it’s not about you. It doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. It’s a reflection of them — of how little work they’ve done on themselves, of how terrified they are of emotional honesty, and of how deeply they avoid discomfort.

They’re not thinking about your feelings — only their own fear and escape.

So when it happens, don’t take it to heart. Don’t chase. Don’t doubt yourself. Instead, believe what they’ve shown you: they’re not in a place to handle real connection. They don’t have the emotional tools. And that is not your responsibility to fix.

Move on. Let them go. Leave them where they belong — in the past.

You deserve someone who shows up. Someone who talks, even when it’s hard. Someone who’s done the emotional work to build something real.

Being ghosted doesn’t mean you’re not enough — it means they’re not ready, they’re unhealed, freaking out, and insecure. And that’s on them.

TR