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Is Your Ex Even Aware of Their Unhealed Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style?
Dismissive avoidants often aren't aware

Tom Robinson
Jul 9, 20254 min read


Letting Go of the “Freaking Out” Unhealed
At some point, you stop romanticizing the cycle. You understand your own patterns — the anxious pull, the over-functioning, the deep need to

Tom Robinson
Jun 24, 20252 min read


Why They Discard the Right One And End Up Resentful
At first, the avoidant feels in control.
They pull away from intensity, convincing themselves that emotional chaos equals danger. So when t

Tom Robinson
Jun 16, 20252 min read


Thank You, Avoidant Ex - You Taught Me All I Needed to Know
The anxious wins the heartbreak race

Tom Robinson
Jun 11, 20252 min read


The Silence of the Avoidant Ex is all the Closure You Need
If they’ve never written to explain, to apologise, to give you closure—then that is your closure. Let that sink in. If someone can...

Tom Robinson
Jun 10, 20252 min read


The Quiet Bliss of Letting Go 😘
The Quiet Bliss of Letting Go
There is a moment — a distinct, quiet turning point — when suffering softens into understanding. When pain, o

Tom Robinson
Jun 8, 20252 min read


The Anxious Partner Wins in the End
The Anxious Wins in the End
They always say the anxious one feels too much, holds on too tightly, loves too deeply. And maybe that’

Tom Robinson
May 31, 20252 min read


When the Anxious and Avoidant collide ❤️🩹
When the Anxious Meets the Avoidant: The Journey of Soulmates Through Healing and Synchronicity
The most beautiful outcome isn’t always the

Tom Robinson
May 26, 20252 min read


The More They Love You, The Faster They Run 🏃♂️
The More a Dismissive Avoidant Loves You, the Faster They Run
It’s one of the most painful relationship experiences: when someone you care

Tom Robinson
May 24, 20252 min read


Crying in Therapy Isn’t Weakness — It’s Healing for the Mind, Body and Soul
Crying in Therapy Isn’t Weakness — It’s Healing for the Mind, Body and Soul

Tom Robinson
May 8, 20252 min read


The Quiet Power of Letting Go
Letting go isn't a single moment. It's not one final conversation or one dramatic goodbye. It's a process—slow, subtle, and often...

Tom Robinson
May 5, 20252 min read


Getting over an Avoidant Ex: why they chose safety
Since avoidants fear their own feelings they will subconsciously choose safety over real romantic love

Tom Robinson
Mar 28, 20254 min read


What is my why??!!
So, Edwin Charles is published (well, self-published, you know what I mean), the moment he's been striving for has finally been...

Tom Robinson
Feb 17, 20234 min read


Social support & friendship is the best medicine but only as long as the communication is on point!
I really wanted to add a quick post today because I feel as though I've neglected the blog recently and I want to assure people that I am...

Tom Robinson
Nov 25, 20213 min read


Breaking Down is Waking up: The Connection Between Psychological Distress and Spiritual Awakening
I wrote a very honest post, a couple of months ago now, which detailed my incredibly powerful spiritual experience of mania which...

Tom Robinson
Aug 3, 20218 min read


Dealing with the frustration of being ignored by the system: trying to come to terms with the past!
Yesterday I went into Oxford, firstly to meet a friend for a catch up and then to have a bone densitometry scan at the Nuffield Hospital....

Tom Robinson
May 26, 20214 min read


Mental health nurse found 'incompetent' after failure to give antipsychotic drugs
I don't particularly enjoy having to highlight the failures and shortcomings of mental health care in the U.K, but without people knowing...

Tom Robinson
Mar 11, 20214 min read


'Death with a heartbeat': Horse & Hound magazine covers my horrific battle with mental illness
I'm so thrilled that people are picking up on what I'm trying to achieve through my writing, and all of the mental health messages that...

Tom Robinson
Mar 1, 20213 min read
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