When the Anxious and Avoidant collide ❤️‍🩹

The Journey of Soulmates Through Healing and Synchronicity.

The most beautiful outcome isn’t always the one that begins with bliss. Sometimes, it begins with rupture—when the anxious meets the avoidant.

One craves closeness; the other fears it. One reaches out, the other pulls away. And so, what could be magic becomes a mirror, reflecting unhealed wounds rather than love.

The avoidant often turns away, resisting vulnerability, resisting therapy, resisting truth.

Their path is longer, slower, paved with the fear of being engulfed or controlled. The anxious, left behind, must sit with the ache, learning not to chase—but to stay, with themselves. To grow.

In the space between them, years may pass. What feels like an ending is often only an invitation—an initiation into deeper selfhood.

As Carl Jung wrote,

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”

Both must walk this path alone.

They do the inner work not necessarily for reunion, but for wholeness. Not to win each other back, but to come home to themselves.

The anxious must learn to surrender to divine timing, to stop clinging to potential and instead live fully in the present—embracing secure love, new beginnings, and the possibility that something better might be waiting. Or not. Either way, they become enough for themselves.

And if, by some stroke of synchronicity, they cross paths again—whole, healed, sovereign—it is no longer a story of lack and longing, but of choice. Of mutual want, not desperate need.

Two souls, once fragmented by fear, reunited in freedom.

That is the most beautiful reunion of all: not a rescue, not a return, but a rebirth.

However, one must not cling to hope, to need or longing.

One must look for the mirror which the opposing person held up to them - the avoidant must see their shadow (their fear of true emotional connection reflected by the anxiou), and the anxious must see their shadow mirrored to them by the avoidant (showing them how to detach from need in order to become whole, secure and independent).

If both can achieve this then it is a union of completed souls choosing to be together to share their wholeness in peace, harmony and love.

TR