The Anxious Partner Wins in the End

They always say the anxious one feels too much, holds on too tightly, loves too deeply.

And maybe that’s true. I did risk my heart. I did give it my all. I stayed open when it would’ve been easier to shut down. I showed up, even when it hurt, even when I was breadcrumbed with meaningless pleas for “lunch” and accused of being “confrontational”, and in the end, that’s what set me free.

Because when everything settled, I saw it clearly: the avoidant didn’t leave because I was too much — they left because they couldn’t face real love.

They ran from connection, from intimacy, from the kind of closeness that requires courage. And I see now how cowardly that was.

But I didn’t run. I felt it all. I cracked open, broke, healed — and in doing so, I found my power.

Now I’m travelling, making new friends, embracing new experiences with a heart that’s been through the fire — and come out stronger.

I’ve found strength not in someone else choosing me, but in choosing myself. I’ve found independence not through rejection, but through resilience.

And funnily enough — I’ve got the avoidant to thank for that. 🤣

Not because they supported me, but because they didn’t. Not because they stayed, but because they walked away. And in their absence, I found space to grow. To become. To finally see myself clearly.

So yes — the anxious wins in the end. Not because we were never hurt, but because we dared to love in the first place.

And when the healing comes, we don’t just survive — we rise.

To the anxious hearts: you were never too much. You were just the one brave enough to feel it all.

TR 😎

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