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Limerence


Letting Go of the Avoidant Who Feared Intimacy
Choosing Yourself: Healing Anxious Attachment & Letting Go of the Avoidant Who Feared Intimacy
There’s something deeply painful about lovin

Tom Robinson
May 21, 20252 min read


Avoidant Ghosting is all the Closure you Need
In romantic relationships, avoidants often draw you in just enough to keep the connection alive—then withdraw the moment you ask for somet

Tom Robinson
May 6, 20251 min read


Dismissive Avoidant Ex? How to break free - for GOOD!
There comes a moment when you just say sod it —not out of anger, but from a place of clarity. When you’ve been involved with a dismissive...

Tom Robinson
Apr 9, 20252 min read


How to let go and free yourself from a Dismissive Avoidant ex
Letting go of an avoidant ex is one of the most confusing, painful things you can go through—because it wasn't all bad.

Tom Robinson
Apr 4, 20253 min read


Letting go of the Avoidant Ex and healing my attachment wounds - the root to true healing
I’ve truly begun to heal my attachment style and free myself from the grip of my dismissive avoidant ex

Tom Robinson
Mar 29, 20253 min read


Getting over an Avoidant Ex: why they chose safety
Since avoidants fear their own feelings they will subconsciously choose safety over real romantic love

Tom Robinson
Mar 28, 20254 min read


Escaping the Dismissive Avoidant Ex - how to heal from a bipolar diagnosis
A DA partner does not break up with you in the way you expect. There are no words, no real closure. AND that for an emotionally intelligent

Tom Robinson
Mar 27, 20254 min read


Romantic devastation: Finding Closure from a Dismissive-Avoidant Breakup
Let me be clear—the dismissive-avoidant provides no closure. I spent years ruminating, trying to make sense of why he pulled the rug out fro

Tom Robinson
Mar 24, 20254 min read


Ex-partners and mental health: Why dismissive avoidants end up miserable
Ex-partners and mental health: Why dismissive avoidants end up miserable

Tom Robinson
Mar 23, 20253 min read


Long-Term Relationship with a Dismissive Avoidant (And Why It Hurts Both People)
Dismissive avoidants often don't choose the person who lights them up or stirs something deep inside them. In fact, they usually reject that

Tom Robinson
Mar 21, 20254 min read


Taking the Knife Out of My Heart: Healing Beyond the Diagnosis
Dismissive avoidants reject the one who gets closest, not because of that person’s flaws, but because they cannot reciprocate emotionally

Tom Robinson
Mar 19, 20253 min read


Dismissive Avoidants: The Best Actors, The Worst Kind of Hurt
I now understand he was (and still is) a dismissive avoidant, and with that knowledge, so much of his behavior finally makes sense.

Tom Robinson
Mar 15, 20254 min read


Midlife Reflection: The key to moving forward
Midlife has a way of sneaking up on you. One day, you're simply going through the motions, and the next, you're confronted with an...

Tom Robinson
Mar 5, 20253 min read


Romantic partners, the dismissive avoidant; why they 'freak out', and sabotage the right relationship
If you’ve ever loved someone with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style , you know the pain of watching them sabotage something truly...

Tom Robinson
Mar 3, 20252 min read


The Avoidant Dismissive ex and the Extended Pain from Breadcrumbing
Love should be a place of warmth, connection, and mutual respect. But for those entangled with an avoidant-dismissive partner, love can...

Tom Robinson
Mar 1, 20254 min read


Breaking Free: How Healing My (and my ex's) Attachment Style Transformed My Sleep and Mental Health
For the longest time, I thought I was battling an illness (a bipolar disorder diagnosed by psychiatrists) - the relentless exhaustion, the f

Tom Robinson
Feb 27, 20253 min read


Limerence, agents, GP's, death and unspeakable pain
The limerent experience thrives in this liminal space between praise and rejection, hope and despair. Such interactions are devastating

Tom Robinson
Nov 16, 20242 min read
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