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Romantic partners, the dismissive avoidant; why they 'freak out', and sabotage the right relationship
If you’ve ever loved someone with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style , you know the pain of watching them sabotage something truly...

Tom Robinson
Mar 32 min read
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Dismissive Avoidants: Trading Love for Safety, Ending Up with Regret
The dismissive-avoidant attachment style is a paradox. On one hand, they crave love and connection like anyone else. On the other,...

Tom Robinson
Mar 33 min read
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Why You’ll Never Get Through to a Dismissive Avoidant—And Why It’s Only Hurting You
If you’ve ever been in a relationship—romantic or familial—with a dismissive avoidant , you’ve probably felt the gut-wrenching pain of...

Tom Robinson
Mar 22 min read
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The Avoidant Dismissive ex and the Extended Pain from Breadcrumbing
Love should be a place of warmth, connection, and mutual respect. But for those entangled with an avoidant-dismissive partner, love can...

Tom Robinson
Mar 14 min read
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Breaking Free: How Healing My (and my ex's) Attachment Style Transformed My Sleep and Mental Health
For the longest time, I thought I was battling an illness (a bipolar disorder diagnosed by psychiatrists) - the relentless exhaustion, the f

Tom Robinson
Feb 273 min read
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Reclaiming sleep post dismissive avoidant discard
Seventeen years ago, my sleep was decimated. Not by a physical ailment, not by an external crisis, but by a romantic discard at the hands of

Tom Robinson
Feb 264 min read
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Healing from the Dismissive Avoidant
Breaking Free from Dismissive Avoidant Abuse Going back into the past to process the core wound of my suffering—being ruthlessly...

Tom Robinson
Feb 253 min read
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Healing from the Avoidant Dismissive
Healing from an Avoidant Dismissive: My Journey I had to take my site down for a while to focus on myself. From the very start of this...

Tom Robinson
Feb 242 min read
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Limerence, agents, GP's, death and unspeakable pain
The limerent experience thrives in this liminal space between praise and rejection, hope and despair. Such interactions are devastating

Tom Robinson
Nov 16, 20242 min read
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Harnessing the power of bipolar - creative genius!
"There is an internal landscape, a geography of the soul; we search for its outlines all our lives." It was this sentence that...

Tom Robinson
Oct 6, 20243 min read
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Purity of Heart in practice: The Good in truth!
Without reading an enormous amount of philosophy then understanding how I've got to this point will be virtually impossible... But......

Tom Robinson
Jul 18, 20244 min read
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Is it possible to will suffering?
This will sound bizarre to many people, but it's something Dostoevsky, Tolstoy, Kierkegaard and others contemplated and something I have...

Tom Robinson
Jun 26, 20242 min read
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Limerence - how to heal a fractured heart
When I read Dr L's book Living with Limerence it was so jaw-droppingly revealing that I read the entire book in one sitting.

Tom Robinson
Jun 21, 20244 min read
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A heart must be tried by pain!
As usual poetry has been very healing. This one by Adelaide Anne Proctor is particularly relevant. Enjoy!

Tom Robinson
Jun 9, 20242 min read
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Leap of Faith
So, I am here... finally. And it was the root cause of my suffering. This is almost impossible to explain, so all I am going to say is...

Tom Robinson
Apr 19, 20242 min read
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Psalm 30
I will exalt you, LORD, for you lifted me out of the depths and did not let my enemies gloat over me. 2. LORD my God, I called to you...

Tom Robinson
Mar 31, 20241 min read
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Kierkegaard: Purity of heart is to will one thing...
I realised after getting my thinking mind back post psychiatric poisoning that the root of the root of my suffering was some kind of...

Tom Robinson
Mar 27, 20242 min read
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Christmas discount from Edwin Charles!
It's been a big effort this year with the publication of two titles plus writing a full novel and editing another! I've also been...

Tom Robinson
Dec 24, 20231 min read
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Detachment from the tribal wave...
Living on the suicidal death boundary for a prolonged period of time and surviving changes a person so much that they no longer belong to...

Tom Robinson
Dec 11, 20232 min read
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Marketing your self-published book!
Well, I've published again and learnt a huge amount... and NO it's not easy! BUT Lyrical Literature; a whistle-stop tour of the classics...

Tom Robinson
Dec 7, 20233 min read
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