The Apology You Deserve The apology you deserve. I wrote to you once before, and I realise now it wasn’t enough. This is the apology I should have given you a long time ago. My behaviour after I broke your heart—after I panicked and ran from real love—was deeply unfair and, honestly, horrendous. I see that now. I’ve finally gone to therapy, and for the first time I truly understand how much damage I caused you, not just by leaving, but by everything I did afterward. A few

On the Boredom of Realizing What You Can’t Fix There’s a particular moment in healing when the drama you used to mistake for intimacy suddenly becomes… boring. I’ve watched the dismissive–avoidant pattern play out enough times now to see it for what it is: not a mystery, not a riddle, not some grand romantic tragedy—just an emotional dead end. A dismissive-avoidant partner cannot offer real love until they choose to face themselves. And the partner who stays, demanding noth

The Illusion Shatters: Letting Go of the Ex You Thought You Knew

The Favour Your Avoidant Ex Has Done for You

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how much money you’ve got in your bank account, how many houses you own, how many cars you drive, or how many designer clothes hang in your wardrobe. It doesn’t matter how many children, holidays, or diamonds you collect. Without love — the real kind — you have nothing. And that’s the truth the dismissive avoidant can never escape. They are, quite possibly, the hardest people in the world to understand — and even harder to heal from. T

How to Forgive and Let Go of a Dismissive Avoidant Who Hurt You

I now understand he was (and still is) a dismissive avoidant, and with that knowledge, so much of his behavior finally makes sense.