Why It’s So Hard to Get Over Your Ex (Especially the Avoidant One) If you’re struggling to get over your ex, you’re not weak. You’re not broken. And you’re definitely not imagining how brutal it feels. They didn’t give you closure. They didn’t explain. They didn’t apologise. They didn’t let you ask questions. They just pulled away. One minute things felt good—maybe even great—and the next they were cold, distant, gone. Then, just to twist the knife, you see them on Instag

hat’s the paradox: they can’t stay with the person who showed them real love and emotional closeness… but they also can’t be alone. So they rebound. Quickly. Not because they’ve healed — but because they choose a partner they don’t have to be real with. Someone who doesn’t require vulnerability, depth, or emotional presence. Someone who allows them to bypass the pain. Because sitting in the flames? Feeling the grief? Quietly processing, healing, and working through their w

How to Spot a Dismissive Avoidant (It’s Easy When You Know How)

your ex is an actor who can't do real love

Silence stretches. The avoidant stares at the floor. Avoidant: What… what have I done? Their voice cracks. Therapist: You spent your whole life trying to hide from yourself. The avoidant’s face collapses. The anger drains. The armor finally gives way. They sob. And sob. And sob. The therapist quietly reaches over, hands them a tissue. Therapist: You ran from love. You ran from truth. You ran from pain you never learned how to hold. The avoidant can barely breathe now.

The Apology You Deserve The apology you deserve. I wrote to you once before, and I realise now it wasn’t enough. This is the apology I should have given you a long time ago. My behaviour after I broke your heart—after I panicked and ran from real love—was deeply unfair and, honestly, horrendous. I see that now. I’ve finally gone to therapy, and for the first time I truly understand how much damage I caused you, not just by leaving, but by everything I did afterward. A few

THE LETTER YOU DESERVE FROM YOUR AVOIDANT EX (that you will never receive)

The Illusion Shatters: Letting Go of the Ex You Thought You Knew

Walking Through the Fire: How Understanding Attachment Helped Me Finally Let Go

If you’ve ever loved someone with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style , you know the pain of watching them sabotage something truly...