Because for decades, the avoidant has been utterly convinced there is nothing wrong with them. They’re strong. Independent. Sorted. Above emotions. Immune to messiness. They’ve got life figured out, thank you very much.

The Avoidant Secretly Envies You If you’ve ever loved someone avoidant, you know the ache. They pull away just when you’re ready to lean in, they run when things get real, they behave as if intimacy is a trap. But here’s the truth they’ll never say out loud: the avoidant secretly envies you. Why? Because you have what they don’t. You have the courage to love openly, fully, and without fear. You’re willing to risk your heart for something real. They can’t. They’re terrified

I’ve truly begun to heal my attachment style and free myself from the grip of my dismissive avoidant ex