Healing Made Me Less Social, Not More Lonely Arthur Schopenhauer wrote: "A high degree of intellect tends to make a man unsocial. For the more he has in himself, the less he will want from other people." For a long time, I thought this was about intelligence. Now I think it can be about healing. The more I have healed, the less I need from other people. That doesn't mean I dislike people. It doesn't mean I think I'm better than anyone else. It simply means that I no long

Unlike many avoidant people, who spend their lives avoiding themselves, their emotions, and their patterns. And ultimately, that becomes their burden to carry — not yours.

That is the particular cruelty of dating someone with an unhealed avoidant attachment style. You often have met someone who could be right, but they are far too emotionally unhealed to hold real love. Red Flags to look out for...