That is the particular cruelty of dating someone with an unhealed avoidant attachment style. You often have met someone who could be right, but they are far too emotionally unhealed to hold real love. Red Flags to look out for...

Because for decades, the avoidant has been utterly convinced there is nothing wrong with them. They’re strong. Independent. Sorted. Above emotions. Immune to messiness. They’ve got life figured out, thank you very much.

Healing After Loving a Dismissive Avoidant What is there left to say after you’ve healed from a relationship with a dismissive-avoidant partner—after you finally realize that they were more unhealed than you? Honestly, not much. The pain they cause is indescribable. I carried it with me for decades after mine. For so long, I thought he was independent, strong, untouchable. But the truth was, he wasn’t running from me—he was running from his wounds. He loved me, but he didn’