On the Boredom of Realizing What You Can’t Fix There’s a particular moment in healing when the drama you used to mistake for intimacy suddenly becomes… boring. I’ve watched the dismissive–avoidant pattern play out enough times now to see it for what it is: not a mystery, not a riddle, not some grand romantic tragedy—just an emotional dead end. A dismissive-avoidant partner cannot offer real love until they choose to face themselves. And the partner who stays, demanding noth

Calling Out a Dismissive Avoidant: Why You’ll Get Gaslit

At first, they seem cool, independent, charming, maybe even mysterious. You think you’ve found someone confident and self-sufficient. But slowly, the mask slips — and you start seeing the pattern.