The Avoidant Secretly Envies You If you’ve ever loved someone avoidant, you know the ache. They pull away just when you’re ready to lean in, they run when things get real, they behave as if intimacy is a trap. But here’s the truth they’ll never say out loud: the avoidant secretly envies you. Why? Because you have what they don’t. You have the courage to love openly, fully, and without fear. You’re willing to risk your heart for something real. They can’t. They’re terrified

There’s a particular kind of heartbreak that doesn’t just shatter you once — it lingers, gnaws, and leaves scars that can take years to heal. It’s the devastation of loving someone with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style. I know this pain firsthand. At first, everything feels incredible. The chemistry is undeniable, the intimacy electric, the connection intoxicating. But as soon as real vulnerability and closeness are required, they vanish. Not fully gone, though — that

It’s not the kind of safety that comes from genuine closeness and vulnerability. It’s the safety of distance. Of control. Of keeping people at arm’s length behind emotional walls so thick that not even they can fully access what’s inside.

For the longest time, I thought I was battling an illness (a bipolar disorder diagnosed by psychiatrists) - the relentless exhaustion, the f

Healing from an Avoidant Dismissive: My Journey I had to take my site down for a while to focus on myself. From the very start of this...