When You Realise the Avoidant Was More Damaged Than You There’s a moment — not sudden, but gradual — when it finally dawns on you: the person who pushed you away, who made you feel like you were “too much,” too emotional, too needy, too intense — they were the one more damaged than you. I used to think I was the problem. I was the empath — deeply emotional, hungry for connection, desperate to love and be loved in return. And he was the mirror opposite: emotionally unavailab