Because for decades, the avoidant has been utterly convinced there is nothing wrong with them. They’re strong. Independent. Sorted. Above emotions. Immune to messiness. They’ve got life figured out, thank you very much.

THE LETTER YOU DESERVE FROM YOUR AVOIDANT EX (that you will never receive)

When You Realise the Avoidant Was More Damaged Than You There’s a moment — not sudden, but gradual — when it finally dawns on you: the person who pushed you away, who made you feel like you were “too much,” too emotional, too needy, too intense — they were the one more damaged than you. I used to think I was the problem. I was the empath — deeply emotional, hungry for connection, desperate to love and be loved in return. And he was the mirror opposite: emotionally unavailab